The Secret Corners of A Woman’s Heart
The main book speaks to men in a way that men can understand, the heart of a woman. It will allow all men to satisfy the woman they love emotionally, physically, romantically. It is written in a easy reading format for men that allows them to see it as a joy not a task. It allows women to have a reference of what they need so that they can finally communicate it to the men they love.
Index of Secret Corners of a Woman’s Heart
Preface -page 1-
How this book came to be
Who this book is written for
How this book is meant to be used
- Refresh and relearn current important items
- The lover alerts
- As a conversation starter
Preface to the Women Who Love This Man -page 11-
Offer it as a gift of who you are
Read it to him and with him
An after love making dessert
Understand that men are visual first
Preface to Men -page 16-
God made us strong with different centers
Women’s strength and power – emotional centering
Men’s strength and power – protection of the family
- This is a choice not a skill
- What part does courage play?
The Love Language of Men and Women -page 23-
What Women Want -page 25-
What Women Need -page 28-
Security wrapped in a blanket of romance
Why the Effort of Romance? -page 30-
Understanding that women have different needs than men
The Elements of Her Security -page 32-
Physical security
- Touching her regularly
- The Kiss – the most intimate of things
Emotional security
Spiritual security
The 12 Keys to Her Heart -page 46-
1) Consistency with surprises
2) The power of our imagination
3) An unexpected gift at an unexpected time
4) Gifting in the presence of others
5) The gift of two consistent things
6) Continuing the mystery
7) Touching her emotionally – the written word
- The love letter
- Written dialogue as a process to connect with her
- Written dialogue as another avenue to fix an issue
8) Say So…Speak the words that are in your head and heart
9) No Advice – the art of listening
- Don’t solve – echo!
- Respond to the emotional not the rational
- How to spot the clues when you are doing a good job of listening
10) Dress her up and show her off
- The need to be desired
- Everyone wants to be someone’s sex object
11) The importance of a consistent date night
12) Love making outside of the bed
- P.D.A.’s (Public Displays of Affection)
- Pillow Talk in the street
Finding Her Passion and Encouraging It -page 84-
Finding out what makes her happy and fulfilled
Encourage her by helping her make time for the thing(s) that fulfill her
50/50 is Not a Winning Hand, 100/100 Secures the Center of Your Love -page 88-
Effort is an Expression of Love -page 91-
Ephesians Chapter 5, Verses 21-29 A Guide to Ending The Drama -page 93-
We are spiritual beings in the midst of a human experience
It is about male/female strength and energy and the replenishment of that strength and energy
The joy of attaining true femininity and masculinity and the safety within Praying together – Spiritual not religious
The Payoff for You -page 103-
Love making with all of herself – her gift
The ease of giving you your place as her man
A partner sharing your vision of love and the relationship
The end result – continued excitement and ecstasy
Stopping Arguments Before They Happen – Increasing The Peace -page 108-
Hmmmmm…you’re probably right!
Choosing happy instead of right Good-Bad-Good, the art of sharing less than positive information
The power of the male voice – monitor your tone!
How to Fight Fair and Make It Work For the Relationship -page 118-
Understanding anger
The effects of anger
The two types of arguments and how to recognize them
Situational arguments/fights (H.A.L.T.-H fights)
Structural arguments/fights Why Only Structural Issues Are Important and Need to Be Addressed -page 129-
Da Rules! -page 131-
Never fight to hurt
Time outs
No going to bed angry
Trading complaints
It’s not about winning – it’s about finding the middle!
A Word About Fidelity/Monogamy -page 138-
Why it is harder for men
Why it is non-negotiable for women
Love is an Action Word -page 142-
Knowledge is not enough
Action is required for change to take place
Acting one’s way into better thinking
Fake it ‘til you make it
Sincerity of the heart is the key
Passing Go by admitting faults
Give the one you love a pass
Perfection Lost: Lose the Idea of A Perfect Woman, Wife, or Relationship -page 155-
Good years/Bad years
Blessings and lessons in every relationship struggle
The Check Lists -page 160-
Daily check list
Monthly check list
Yearly check list Love
Letter and Dialogue Formats -page 163-
The love letter format
Dialogue format
A Word to The Unhappy -page 167-
The love of a solid union cannot change the core of who someone is
We can affect change in the habits of the ones we love but not their view of the world We cannot love someone into happiness
Resources for the Secret Corners of a Woman’s Heart -page 171-
Appendices -page 172-
Secret Corners Workbook
The workbook encourages men to ask the questions that will allow them to fulfill the most deepest needs of the women they love. It will also give men understanding of the heart of the women they love as well as her mind. This will allow men to get the positive feedback from their woman that will allow him to be the most man that he can be for her and completing the circle of love, eroticism, and joy. The Secret Corners Workbook can be done individually but works better when men work in small groups of 2-10 guys.